12/6/09
Pragmatics
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
In an effort to offer a possible explanation why my officemate’s friend is finding it so hard to get some lovin as soon as other foreigners arrived, I introduced the concept of how my girl friends (mind the space between ‘l’ and ‘f’) choose between two men. These are defnitely NOT canonical, and feel free to object as you may please. Of course there’s always the pure unconditional love thing, but these are the types of women that I would especially be watchful of anyway.
1. The Reasonable Choice. The reasonable choice is the typical play-it-safe girl’s man. This is based on her own attributes — you’re the one who shares common interests with her — reads the same books, watches the same movies, listens to the same music. If two men are equally smart, nice, good-looking, she’ll choose the one with the same religion as hers. You’re the knight in shining armor of every Sweet Valley High fanatic. Very practical, but I find this superficial.
2. The Convenient Choice. The convenient choice is the golddigger’s dream. This is based, needless to say, on her needs – she will absolutely luuuurve the benefits that she can get if she avails you. Who cares about the main product, she’s only after the “But wait, there’s MORE!!!” package that only you can offer.
3. The Ostentacious Choice. The ostentacious choice is a social climber’s jackpot. Rather than basing it on her own ideals, she bases it relative to what other women would be envious of. The only reason why she would choose you is because you’re popular, belongs to the inner elite circle and all other women want you. You’re the walking trophy capable of intelligent speech and she would strut you around as her new pet, making sure that everyone sees that you’re with h-e-r.
4. The Logical Choice. The logical choice is based on your attributes relative to that of other men. You were chosen as if you were applying for promotion. If two men are equally nice, caring, and smart, she’ll choose the better looking guy.
5. The No Choice. The no choice is what you will expect from someone who just can’t live without 
a boyfriend and/or wants to prove to her ex that no one is indispensible. You exist only to serve as a replacement, not of the love that was lost, but for the position that needed to be filled in.
6. The Random Sex Choice (thanks master Entings–you’d want to add something to this ). This choice is the man who will more likely spill this kind of dialog during a lover’s quarrel (and mean it)
“Katawan ko lang ang habol mo sakin!” (lit. You’re only after my body!)
I would guess that after all the one night stands, you’re the one who knows 
best the meaning of foreplay and quench that primal desire. Sometimes, women don’t even choose at all, she just needs someone to scratch her you-know-what like a hard-to-reach itchy area in your back waiting to be scratched. If you’re walking with her in a mall and suddenly greets a man who walks past across you with with two eyebrow twitches, there’s a good chance that he was one of the many others who got to her first. I bet you were lucky guy #132.(If this girl we’re talking about looks like this picture to your right, don’t mind being # 133, though. haha!)
Sure, I’m cool with that if I fall under one of these 5. It doesn’t change the fact that I was still the choice. This is true, at least, if I need a bolt to screw (see #6). If any bitterness will linger, it won’t be as long as I think it will.
But can you really love someone who only fell for you because you fit in some love equation? I can’t.
No need to worry, surely your girlfriend didn’t choose you just because you’re the practical choice, right….
Previous Comments
As if I have options.
Yehehehes. Bitterness attacks again.
Posted by Saminella at February 4, 2009, 10:14 pm@ entings:
that’s not true!! sige nga bigyan mo ko ng celfone number ng babaeng sinasabi mo kung totoo yan!!! hahaha 
@Saminella:
that’s not true, either. *wink*wink* 
Opinion:
hey, smarty pants… you’ve made your point. but bottom line is CHOICE.
need i explain myself more in detail?
The guy made his choice to pursue the bitch/gurl or not.
The (*ahem) lady made her choice to keep up with the loser/guy/jackpot or not.
He-he-he.
Sorry for the name-calling.
Posted by chic at February 8, 2009, 9:13 pmbtw…
GOOD BLOG entry. some good reads i find very interesting.
*and i hope you were her HEART’S CHOICE! hehehe… …since, after all it’s the LOVE month!
Posted by chic at February 8, 2009, 9:18 pm@chic:
Just because we’ve given you the right to emotionally beat the shit out of us, doesn’t mean you should.
To blame a person for being deceived because he decided to love is ridiculous. Love does not deserve abuse and should not be taken advantage of, regardless of who made that choice.
Posted by TBB at February 8, 2009, 9:50 pm“a heart’s choice”, don’t know about that.
because sometimes or most of the time, the “heart’s choice” is influenced by a lot of factors. i saw my friends ending up miserable because of choosing someone who what they labeled as someone who is ideal and stuff. there choice being influenced by a lot of outside opinions. they tend to want the approval of others as oppose to their own happiness.
i chose what can make me happy.
i chose being single. hahaha!
nasa pending list pa ung date ko eh. hahaha!
sorry TBB, if i sparked a flame of bitterness out of you.
[however, i am none of those who’ve made choices yet. whatever you label it to be. i know this maybe because i’ve never treated any guy as subjects to choose from or i just didn’t have any choice, do i? in short, i haven’t given any guys mixed signals. i get straight forward with them. i never even give my crush any hint. even if you gave me the right (if the you - were referring to was me… hehe) i don’t have the heart to.]
choice - i meant by guy pursuing girl was knowing that she is a girl/bitch, still chooses to do so. no blame, it’s the consequences that brings regrets/bitterness.
nevertheless, you know about love. it endures. that’s why i still stand up to choice. you are willing to love someone no matter what, in spite of or despite of. now, that for me is love.
it changes you.
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But can you really love someone who only fell for you because you fit in some love equation? I can’t.
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@ smoreskisspanda - yehey, to singlehood! btw, i don’t know if i’m just soooooo intimidating, i’ve not even had a boyfriend ever or may i say real date!? ha-ha. bata pa siguro ako.
so the heart’s choice is a mere illusion? …by being influenced by several factors. i assume it can’t really be a heart’s choice then… !>?!?
Posted by chic at February 8, 2009, 10:55 pmi just have to make one last entry before i snooze.
i didn’t realize till just about now that this blog entry was published on my birthday. *cool! =D
no wonder, i felt drawn to this article. ha-ha-ha. you know, i’m kidding.
coincidence.
Posted by chic at February 8, 2009, 11:07 pmAll the options are taken now. Haha.
P.S. Yung roses ko. Yikee.
Posted by Saminella at February 9, 2009, 8:10 amwhatever. i’m down with the random sex choice.
Posted by entings at February 9, 2009, 6:30 pmwhat i mean by the heart’s choice is that they assume that it is what they really feel, then again…the heart isn’t capable of thoughts. gaaah!
let’s just be careful on who we choose and also be careful those who will get chosen. haha! yahoo to singlehood! 
@chic - me too, never had a girlfriend. maybe i am lame to have one.
Posted by smoreskisspanda at February 9, 2009, 7:31 pm@chic/smoreskisspanda:
get a ROOM!
Posted by bitterbastard at February 9, 2009, 10:04 pm@entings:
penge nga ng contacts haha
Posted by bitterbastard at February 9, 2009, 10:04 pmbut yea, i’ll add the random sex choice. good call!
Posted by bitterbastard at February 9, 2009, 10:07 pm…@ all - i’m not even initiating anything now. hahaha. =) and i thought smoreskisspanda was a girl/lady/woman. ha-ha-ha. funny, when i read that you never had a girlfriend, sorry, but then i thought you were lesbo or went lesbian all of a sudden. sorry, hahaha. then i traced back to all of your previous messages and comments and even had to read your last response to figure. oh, my oh my, what do i know… you’re a guy after all. PEACE!
@ TBB - =D. can’t stop laughing at my amusement.
Posted by chic at February 9, 2009, 10:19 pmadditional # 6 hahaha…
don’t tell me only women fall in this category…
Posted by chic at February 10, 2009, 12:57 pmna-inlub sa ugali mo.. meron bang ganun?
Posted by allscoolthatendswell at February 10, 2009, 5:58 pm@chic:
of course not, but i’ll leave the nagging to the bitter b*tch. if applicable.
@allscoolthatendswell
yes, but that’s not something you guard against. those are the ones you’d want to love forever ever.
all that matters is that you’re happy with your choice.. no matter how that choice was made.
we all have our reasons.
Posted by theguywhoscoolwithit at February 11, 2009, 3:54 ami find no solace in someone who only loves me for what i can give and not for who i am.
someone once said that you don’t want someone to ride with you in your ferrari–you’d want someone who’d ride the bus with you when the ferrari breaks down. i believe in that.
if i will love someone, i will love myself foremost. that means believing that everyone deserves to be loved, including me.
Posted by bitterbastard at February 11, 2009, 7:27 am“if i will love someone, i will love myself foremost. that means believing that everyone deserves to be loved, including me.”
This is the most beautiful thing I’ve read in days. It made me think I need to start believing in myself more. =)
Posted by Saminella at February 11, 2009, 8:12 amthis has nothing to do with office romance right?
work related ba toh ahahahah!?!
Posted by someguyattheoffice at February 17, 2009, 3:43 pmromance is bullsh*t.
Posted by TBB at February 24, 2009, 8:31 pmas for me, loving someone just happens - no explanations/reasons/justifications at all but being in a relationship is always a decision. at mahirap talaga yun. masaya lang talaga pag babae, parating “may the best man win.”
“romance is bullsh*t. ”
tsk! tsk! tsk!
ive been hurt a million times…
and i’m even tired of the game they play…
haaaay!…. sigh…
Posted by misha+ at March 4, 2009, 5:14 pmyou don’t have to look for love in all the wrong places..just MY place hahaha im kiddin
Posted by TBB at March 5, 2009, 8:49 ami’ve been waiting, waiting and waiting…
hope i could drop by at your place… 
where the H i could find that???!!!… paahhhhlllleeeaaassseee???….. hahahahahaha!! XD
Posted by misha+ at March 11, 2009, 11:50 pmi'm sure that i look much better in your fantasies than in real life haha behave baby
im behaving in this manner….
what can i say?… your making me mentally masturbate!!
hahahahaha!
;)
Posted by misha+ at March 12, 2009, 12:14 amthis made my night! *wink kay TBB* iba na talaga ang sikat at may hot blog.
This is why I don’t show my face naaaaks
Posted by TBB at March 13, 2009, 6:52 amhahahah!….
i will see you soon…i know..
please stop it..di kita kayang bigyan ng magandang buhay (magandang lahi, pwede pa!! hahaha)
Posted by TBB at March 15, 2009, 2:55 pmhahaha!…. can’t help it, you make me drool over your wit…..
okay lang sakin magandang lahi….. magandang buhay!??? hhmmm….ill be the one to give it to you….. hahahahah!
;)
Posted by misha+ at March 17, 2009, 12:48 amhindi naman mataas ang standards ko e. di bale nang maganda basta mayaman hahaha
Posted by TBB at March 17, 2009, 7:32 amhahahaha!!!!!
manga ka pala….jk…..
:)
Posted by misha+ at March 17, 2009, 8:32 pmi always fall on #5..geez… why cant they tell that im there only as a friend…tapos ako pa ang mali… duh…
Posted by jake_bloo at April 4, 2009, 3:38 pm@jake_bloo:
can you tell me how those relationships ended up with (if you don’t mind)?
xori to dissapoint you,pero d naging kami nung mga babae..ang nakakainis lang kasi ..after 2-3 weeks ng pakibagreak nila sa bf nila…nahulog daw sakin… i was only there as a friend,yung tipong bago pa man sila umiyak,patawain mo na lang or sasamahan mo gumala-gala para d na nila isipin x nila..tapos pag sinabihan mong”i was only there as a friend”… Waahh..aawaying ka…matino ba yun?geezzz..anyways…hindi naman sa ayaw ko sa kanila.its just that kaibigan ang turing mo.. so girls,when you find a GUY friend..and you know na tinuturing ka niyang friend,unless you think na gusto ka rin niya..wag ka ng umasa…dahil mabibigo ka…(napahaba ata)…besides im not the type who take advantage of girls with a broken heart(although parang free meal na yun)… diet ako eh..hehehe
Posted by jake_bloo at April 6, 2009, 1:38 pmhhhmm….
gurls are vulnerable…divertion siguro…feeling nila nahuhulog sila ..but i think its just that your there available to hug them in those moments na hurt sila…give them the right signal nalang na theres a thin line between you and her… na di talaga pwede kayo…
i have a guy friend as well, feeling kow syah nga nahuhulog sa’kin but then, i always told him that we are just friends… he could love me but i gave him the heads up that he can’t expect something from me… since, im not ready to the L thingy…
meaning loving the person but just dont expect something in return..because if you expect the more you get hurt..
its just the way it is…girls are so compplicated sometimes i mean all the time…
hehehe
:)
yes. complicated. no better term. women–can’t live wit em, can’t live without em.sheesh.
Posted by TBB at April 6, 2009, 5:39 pm@jake_bloo: what i would do had i been in your place is to tell stories about some other hot chic that you’d want to date or something. they’ll get it. most of the time. unless you’re really that good looking. if that’s the case, misha+, meet jake_bloo.
Posted by TBB at April 6, 2009, 5:58 pmlol
Posted by misha+ at April 7, 2009, 10:37 pm@tbb… question…
which would you prefer, pangit na may sex appeal or gwapo kah pero wala kang sex appeal?…
Posted by misha+ at April 8, 2009, 7:34 pmthat’s hard to answer, coz i’m sisig by nature.
tenga pa lang, ulam na! (yes. i really had to say that haha)
if you’re really serious with that question, let them have the looks…i’ll take the women.
what made you ask?
Posted by TBB at April 8, 2009, 8:50 pmwala lang, tanong kow lang po…..
kasi we were talking about this guy… na we think his gay but ayaw umamin… tapos, sabi ng isang friend kow na di daw syah gay..he just don’t have the SEX APPEAL… tawa akow ng tawa..can’t help it… i mean i have a lot of gay friends and i do respect them, they make me laugh, cry, live life to the fullest…and ive got nothing against them…syah lang kasi he wont make amin…hehehe
me too… let them be beautiful… hahahaha
:)
Posted by misha+ at April 13, 2009, 5:04 pmso anong choice ka? why are you so bitter nga ulit? hahahaha siguro no one chose you. or if meron siguro, nag sisisi na sya ngayon
@bogus:
you already seem to have an answer to your own question so i’ll leave it your imagination. good hypothesis.
@tbb
mejo OT ha, ask ko lang ano stand mo sa casual sex? friends kau pero ginagawa nyo yun?
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 1:39 am@pasaway:
if i say that i'm cool with it, would you like to be my friend hahahaha kiddin (hope you're a girl *fingers crossed*)
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 7:03 amis it possible a ma-fall yun isa’t isa just because they were doing it?
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 2:10 pmimho, if they reach the part that they can lie in bed beside each other, not do it, and wake up not feeling grumpy, probably i’d believe that they have fallen for each other
otherwise, they’re just loving the feeling, not the person, again, imho.
do you have other questions or are you ready to answer mine
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 2:20 pmno other questions na po…thanks!
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 2:41 pmdo you mind if i ask you a question?
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 2:47 pmdepende siguro kung kaya kong sagutin?? hehe
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 2:51 pmi got two questions. the first one would be
what was the answer that you were expecting on question number 2?
the second question will depend on your answer here.
you can choose not to answer.
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 2:57 pmah oks. eto yun ini-expect ko
pag guy di ma-fall, pero pag girl… 90% possible ma fall?
ewan siguro gusto ko lang malaman kung ano yun mga posibilidad
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 3:07 pmhow are you feeling right now?
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 3:54 pmhehe sa totoo lang i can’t describe…siguro mixed emotions.
Posted by pasaway at May 18, 2009, 4:06 pmif you can answer why you are doing it (i mean, REALLY), it may help clear out the fog.
and always remember, if you can’t be good…be CAREFUL.
cheers,
tbb
hehe. thanks! at least nkapag unload ako
sana…matutunan mo ring mahalin ang sarili mo…
Posted by TBB at May 18, 2009, 4:30 pmhhhmmm…
hirap ng buhay.. pero simple lang ang dapat gawin..
Posted by mishaa+ at May 26, 2009, 11:50 amthese days, it seems being commited is a thing of the past
Posted by joe at June 4, 2009, 5:29 pm
Some women don’t even choose. They just randomly pick you for the sex. The Random Sex Choice.
Posted by entings at February 4, 2009, 9:45 pm